When did you last tell someone who matters to you that you love them?
I’m pretty good at telling my husband I love him. As a couple we probably say it most days. (It’s funny, as I was writing this he phoned me from downstairs to pass on some practical info and we ended the 10 second conversation with an ‘I love you’ each).
I think I tell my closest friends how much they mean to me quite regularly too. There’ve been some difficult times and dark days for me recently and these people have stopped me from falling, lifted me up and showed me the way to keep going.
My mum and dad have too, and even at 35 I know they take every step with me and would give me all they could if I needed it. But I do find it more difficult to tell them I love them and I don’t really know why.
While I was never in any doubt how much I was loved by them as a kid, I guess as a family we weren’t particularly into PDAs or saying the words ‘I love you’. I don’t think that’s altogether a bad thing because I do think some people have a tendency to throw around those important three words far too easily.
I presented them with this poem at my wedding, because it summed up so many words I wanted to say. I went a bit to town celebrating their ruby wedding anniversary last summer because I felt so indebted and in awe of the role models they’d been. I made them this scrapbook as a present. But at the party, when my brother and I briefly took to the mic, I couldn’t actually say the words I wanted to. They just got stuck in my throat and I was practically in tears in front of all the people they knew. Slightly embarrassing. (I blame the gin).
I think the less we say ‘I love you’ the harder it becomes, so while I don’t think we should spoil the special feeling generated by hearing those words by saying them too often, I do think we should try to say it each time we feel it.
This is what French retailer La Redoute‘s current #LanguageofLove campaign is about. Their survey last month found just under a quarter of UK people haven’t said ‘I love you’ in over a year. Isn’t that sad?
If you’re wondering how nice it feels to give and receive some words of appreciation from a loved one – or you would simply like to see particularly good-looking Frenchman called Florent speaking his beautiful language – grab a tissue and watch La Redoute’s video.
Did it make you think about whether you tell someone enough that you love or appreciate them?
PS appropriately enough it’s my fourth wedding anniversary today! ♥ You can read about our wedding here, but please forgive the novice blogging style :)